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If you are a parent with a child either in or going to college and have a question about any aspect of higher education, send it to me in confidence at OffToCollege101@gmail.com I will select questions to be answered and then place the answers on this blog for public view but without the name of the person asking the question. I have access to many college and university faculty and administrators (deans, health care professionals, coaches, admissions and financial aid officers) and they will assist me in answering your questions. Neither I nor my company, Academic Collaborations Inc., receive compensation for this service.


Monday, April 9, 2018




OTHER CONSIDERATIONS

In my last post I discussed deciding between large versus small institutions. There are other choices your child will have to make in selecting a college. Let me list some of these and then briefly outline the pluses and minuses for each.

College near home vs far away: Data shows that most kids go to a college within a 50 mile radius of their home. There are obvious reasons for this including seeing their parents more often, parents who are more easily able to attend athletic contests or other events in which their children are involved, and just regional familiarity. On the other hand there are virtues to going to college away from home including not being too close to Mom and Dad, an opportunity to attend an exceptional college (i.e. Stanford for someone living in the northeast or south) and experiencing another region of the country.

Urban vs rural: I’m a New York City kid and I went to a college in the rural Midwest. I missed being in a big city. But then I know of other New York City kids who really need to get out of town and kids from the rural mid-west who really need to experience life in a large metropolitan area. 

Secular or religious: I believe in faith-based colleges. I was president of two. But I can also understand why some kids might not feel comfortable in a college that is too focused on religion. Fortunately in America there is great diversity on this front from strictly evangelical colleges like Wheaton, in Illinois, to denominationally-related but otherwise non-sectarian colleges like Hobart and William Smith in upstate New York, to completely secular institutions like state universities.

Public vs private: Because I attended and then was president of a private college I have been biased to this sector. But frankly, public universities are just as good--sometimes better--than universities in the private sector. And, of course, they are less expensive because of subsidies from their states. However, if your child wants to attend a small college of say 1200 to 1500, they will have more options in the private sector. There are very few small public colleges.

Again, the great thing about higher education in America is its diversity. But please keep in mind: the choice of where to go to college is really your child’s not yours. Of course you must be involved in the decision and can give good advice. But I would avoid doing what many parents do namely restricting their child’s choices like where they can and can’t go to college. Of course there are limiting factors like the cost of a college. But everything being equal, the choice should be theirs.

In my next post I will discuss the role of surveys like US News and World Report in picking a college. 

Monday, April 2, 2018












BIG VS SMALL UNIVERSITIES

I know this is a generalization, but when I do practice college interviews at Mamaroneck High School, it seems that boys want to attend large (sometimes huge) universities while girls are more interested in smaller ones. This post is not meant to argue for larger universities over smaller ones or vice a versa, just to set out the pluses and minuses of each.

Teaching. While larger research universities have much more variety in their course offerings, tenured faculty tend to want to teach graduate students rather than undergraduates. The result is that more often than not, graduate assistants (PhD students) will take on a larger share in teaching undergraduates so that senior faculty can teach graduate courses and advise PhD candidates. At smaller colleges on the other hand, all faculty teach undergraduates because there are no graduate assistants. At large research universities graduate assistants are often great teachers and I don’t want to demean them. But I am reminded of an experience I had at an elite major research university one of my daughters was considering. We were in the university’s amazing gothic library and the tour guide, a sophomore, was bragging about the fact that most of his first- year teachers were graduate assistants. “They’re really cool,” he said, “and understand our generation,” whereupon a mother standing next to me uttered under her breath (but loud enough for everyone to hear), “Why am I paying a small fortune to have my child taught by someone who is only a couple years older than she is?” I think she had a point.

Sports. If your child plays a sport and they are really good, a Division I university makes sense. They can play at top, competitive levels which usually doesn't happen at a small college. But if they don’t consider athletics to be at the center of their existence but would enjoy playing on a team anyway, a smaller Division III institution makes sense. I often meet high schools students who love playing their sport but think they can’t make the team at a larger DI institution. So they either give up their sport altogether or decide to play intramurals and there is nothing wrong with this. But if they really want to play their sport competitively they should consider a DIII or D II college or university. Most DIII and DII programs accept “walk on” athletes (ie athletes who have not been recruited) and in my opinion they are just as competitive as DI.

Want to experience the college”spirit.” There is a commonly held belief among the high school students I work with that the kind of college spirit you might witness at, say, the University of Michigan doesn’t exist at a smaller college or university. I imagine its exhilarating to root for the Wolverines at a Big Ten football game. But I must tell you, watching traditional rivals Randolph-Macon and Hampden-Sydney play football or basketball in the tiny DIII Old Dominion Athletic Conference (which I did many times while president of RMC) was just as exciting as attending the Harvard/Yale football game which I also did many times. College spirit exists at practically every college and university in the United States!

Want to have more friends. It is true that if your child attends a large university there will be more friends to choose from. But I would suggest that this argument is somewhat specious. How many friends can you have at a university with 10,000 or 40,000 students? Even at a small college with 1500 students you will never get to know everyone. 

Won’t be enough to do. Similarly students will often reject a small college because they believe there won’t be enough to do on campus. It is true that larger universities can offer a wider range and variety of activities. On the other hand with classes taking up most of a student’s time, there is just so much they can do outside of class unless having a social life is their most important priority. So a large university with 100 clubs versus a small college with 25 makes little difference. At both kinds of institutions there will be plenty to do. 

In my next post I will discuss some other factors your child will need to consider in selecting a college.

Monday, March 26, 2018




ATTENDING AN IVY LEAGUE UNIVERSITY IS NOT THE MOST IMPORTANT THING


In my Westchester, New York community high school students are under enormous pressure to get into the “right” college, “right” being an Ivy League or a top rated college according to US News and World Report. As a student I too was under that pressure both at a high school that prided itself in the number of students admitted to prestigious colleges and from a father who attended Yale and wanted me to follow in his footsteps. The problem was that I was a very average high school student struggling with a learning disability. So I ended up going to a college that was not considered very prestigious.

But here is what I have learned as an adult who later went on to teach and be a dean at an Ivy League university: THE most important thing is for your child is to go to a college where they can be successful and happy not necessarily to a prestigious college where you might be happy but they might very well be miserable. Had I been able to gain admission to Yale, I might have dropped out of college. At age eighteen, a teenager with dyslexia  I just wouldn’t have survived Yale's very competitive academic and social environment. Where I did go to college—a small relatively unknown liberal arts university in New Jersey—I was able slowly to conquer my learning disability and grow socially becoming president of my residence hall sophomore year. By junior year and with the hands-on help of one of my professors who believed that I had potential, I excelled academically and at graduation I was admitted to an elite graduate school.

Which brings me to another point most parents don’t consider. If you child aspires to be a lawyer or a physician or some other profession, it’s really the graduate school, not the undergraduate college they attended, that opens professional doors. Moreover, elite graduate and professional schools often recruit college students who have done well academically but are also big fish in small ponds –and it’s easier to be a big fish at a small college! I have a friend who attended an Ivy League university as an undergraduate and wanted to go on to law school but neither excelled academically nor was a student leader as an undergraduate. As a result he could only get into a regional law school and today resents his Ivy League university for failing him . On the other hand, I attended an unknown college, did well enough to get into two highly competitive graduate programs that opened doors for me and went on to become president of two liberal arts colleges. 

Again, the point is that your child should attend a college where they can be happy and successful. If they can do this at an Ivy League university, fine. If they can’t (as was the case for me) it’s not the end of the world. Students can achieve their potential at almost any college.

In my next post I will discuss the virtues of small vs large universities.

Monday, March 19, 2018








SAVING MONEY BIG TIME: THE COMMUNITY COLLEGE ROUTE

In the past, community colleges have often been considered as a place your child goes to if they can’t get into a four year college. This is unfair to community colleges because they serve a number of important purposes including providing post-secondary education for students who don't desire or are not ready for a four year residential experience but also for mature students who must continue to work. 

But there is another reason why students and their parents might want to consider a community college—cost.

Many community colleges have articulation agreements with four year colleges and universities. Under this arrangement, a student does their first two years at a community college and then transfers into a senior four year institution for the last two years. Because of the articulation agreement, all courses taken at the community college are seamlessly transferred to the four year institution. For example, general education courses taken at the community college fulfill the general education requirement at the four year college or university. 

The reason many people are beginning to consider the community college option is because of the cost differential. Take, for example, a typical four year liberal arts college. At this college, you will pay $50,000 per year for room, board and tuition or $200,000 for four years (less at a four year public university). Of course this "sticker price" can be brought down by scholarship support. However if your child takes their first two years at a local community college that has an articulation agreement with a four year institution (and lives at home), tuition and fees for two years will be only $12,500 (which can vary from community college to community college). If you add this $12,500 to the $100,000 your will pay for your child's last two years at a four year institution, the total cost of a BA or BS will be $112,500, expensive but a whole lot less expensive than the $200,000 you would have paid for your child to attend a four year private college. And your child gets the same degree!

Worth considering if college cost is a big issue for you.

In my next post I will discuss why going to an Ivy League university is not necessarily the most important thing in the world. 


Monday, March 12, 2018



ARE YOU BEGINNING TO THINK ABOUT FINANCIAL AID?

When financial aid was given out solely on the basis of financial need, college financial aid officers had rather straightforward jobs. They simply ran the needs calculation on their computer and made the offer. 

This has all changed. 

Today financial aid is given out on the basis of need and/or merit so even students who don't need it can receive scholarship support if merited by their grades. Moreover, since the court ruling prohibiting colleges and universities from regulating financial aid and scholarship offers via inter-institution information sharing, it is now possible to bargain up financial aid offers, especially if a student is a very desirable candidate. Thus college A (the applicant’s first choice) offers a no-need student who is class valedictorian and editor of the high school newspaper a $5,000 merit scholarship. If College B (the applicant's second choice but a place she would be happy attending) offers $8,000, the applicant can tell College A that unless they match the offer, she might go to College B. Depending on how desirable the candidate is (and also how willing the financial aid office is to negotiate), College A will often give in and up the amount. I’m not saying that a tug of war is the way it should be. I personally believe that financial aid should be given primarily to students who otherwise couldn't afford a college education. Still, if an applicant is a commodity, it’s possible to get a scholarship even if the applicant does not have financial need. Just pity the poor financial aid people who now often get stuck in the middle of an often contentious bargaining process with parents. 

Incidentally the ability to negotiate a financial aid package is a reason why an applicant may not want to apply Early Decision. Under the most well known Early Decision options (and there are others that are not as restrictive) a student is admitted in December on the condition that he or she will abandon other applications and attend the college in the Fall if accepted. This is OK for a student who doesn’t need financial aid. On the other hand, for students who do need financial aid, including middle- class families who do not qualify for need-based aid, committing to only one college takes away financial aid options. I have a close friend whose son, a rising high school junior, is not only a world-class junior chess champion but also top of his high school class. Even though this young man can go to any college he chooses, I would advise him and his family against Early Decision because he will need financial aid. Far better to be admitted to three or four top colleges and then choose the one that offers the best financial aid package, an option he and his parents won't have if he is accepted at an Early Decision college and must accept the financial package that that college offers.

In my next post I will discuss one way to save money on higher education big time!


Saturday, February 24, 2018








SPECIAL SITUATIONS: Students attending weak high schools or who have a learning or physical disability

In this post I would like to speak to the parents of prospective college students who face certain challenges. Perhaps they attend a weak high school that has put them at an academic and competitive disadvantage. Maybe they have to cope with a physical or (like me) a learning disability. Here is some information that might be helpful as your student begins to research colleges.

Students from weak high schools: Many very bright students have to endure an inferior high school education on their way to college. Their classes are overcrowded or their school does not have AP (Advanced Placement) courses. But by sheer perseverance and against great odds they are doing well. College admissions people love students who are thriving in an otherwise difficult learning environment. But a word of caution is in order. Any student who gains admission into a selective college from a high school that is below par academically should make sure that the college he or she enters has remedial and other support services. “Remediation” is no longer a dirty word and even places like Harvard provide remedial services for students who enter with academic deficiencies in writing, reading, and math. Just remember, getting into a good college is one thing. Graduating is often something else. When the time comes, encourage your student to ask for help if they need it. And if the college doesn’t provide this kind of help but just lets their weaker students sink, encourage your child to consider a different college!

Students with a physical disability: Because we know so much more about students who come to college with a physical disability, colleges are doing a much better job of providing a quality education for these students. The Americans with Disabilities Act requires that colleges make what is called “reasonable accommodation” for students who must use a wheel chair or who are blind.This means, for example, that if a political science class is normally scheduled on the top floor of a classroom building that does not have an elevator and a student who requires a wheelchair wants to take the course, the college need not build an elevator (though it might want to consider doing this), but can accommodate the student by rescheduling the class in an accessible, first- floor classroom. It is important, however, for physically challenged high school students and their parents to understand, preferably before applying, what the college can and cannot do to make accommodation. For instance, it is much easier to accommodate a student who must use a wheelchair at a campus built on a flat plateau than at one built off the side of a mountain. 

Students with learning disabilities: Students with a learning disability such as dyslexia or attention deficit disorder should make their disability known to the college preferably before they apply. In the admissions process it is against the law for a college to discriminate against a student with a learning disability! Once admitted a letter will be required from a health care provider (often a physician) verifying and describing the disability. On the basis of this letter, the college's Disabilities Office will then provide the student with accommodation, for example allowing students who are dyslexic and therefore slow readers to take untimed tests. If, on the other hand, the student is unwilling to tell the college about their disability they will have to cope without accommodation. 

For my post next week I will share my personal story about going to college with a learning disability


Tuesday, February 20, 2018








MORE ON THE APPLICATION: Don't write your kid's college essay!!


In last week’s post, I addressed common application strategies such as high school recommendations and the importance of extracurricular activities. In this post I will discuss the college essay, interviews, and being what we call a legacy. Again, this is for the parents of high school juniors whose children are now contemplating applying to college.

• The college essay: Essays are becoming an increasingly important part of the application process because they enable applicants to demonstrate their writing and thinking skills. Unfortunately, parents (or worse, a hired writer) sometimes write these essays for their children or the essay is gotten on line from an essay writing service. This is not a good idea. It’s not only dishonest, but it can easily be detected by people in the college admissions office. For example, if they receive an essay that is polished and perfect but then see an SAT essay score that is below par they will become suspicious. The SAT essay obviously cannot be influenced by a parent or by a ghost writer because the student writes in a monitored setting. The college essay, on the other hand, is written in an environment that is not monitored. Parents can proof read for spelling errors but the college admissions essay should always be the applicant's own. College admissions people will probably know if its ghost written and there are ways they can detect if the essay came from an on-line service. Identifying an essay that is not the student’s almost always means rejection. Your student should also choose a topic that will set their essay apart from the other essays. It is well known that students who write about rather common and pedestrian themes such as "What I did last summer" or "The computer games I like to play" are accepted at a lower rate than students who write on more personal or deeper topics. For example, a high school student I worked with wrote an essay on an event in her life that was life changing. When her mother suddenly died from brain cancer she had to help take care of her younger brothers and sisters. She wrote about what she learned from this experience. This moving and very personal essay helped her gain admission to Yale.

• Interviews: You can’t control this, but if your student plans to do an interview, they should try to do it with someone in the admissions office because these are the people who make the final decision on who gets admitted and who doesn't. Most colleges on the other hand either don’t require an interview or, when they are required, assign an alumnus or even a student to do them. You can’t always control this but when it happens your child just has to go with the flow. My own feeling is that interviews, especially with admissions office personal, can be very important because they put a face—a personality—on the data admissions officers must read (i.e. grades, board scores). Interviews, if they are done well, can also help offset an otherwise pedestrian academic or extra- curricular record. I have seen kids with otherwise average high school grades wow the admissions officer with an exceptional interview by, for example, explaining that they have had to overcome a learning disability or poverty. On the other hand, if your student doesn’t interview well and/ or if the interview is not required your student probably shouldn't do it. A student with great grades and board scores but who is otherwise an introvert can only hurt themselves with a bad interview. For more on what the interview might look like, see my article in Grown and Flown (http://grownandflown.com/questions-help-college-interview/).

• Legacies: When I was a college president, I often got phone calls from alumni politicking to get their children or grandchildren (what we call “legacies”) admitted to their alma mater. Most good colleges want legacies, but only if they match the college’s profile and can be successful. If the applicant is a borderline case, it might help to be a legacy. But if the student is well below the profile, politicking by parent or grand parent who is an alum of the college probably won’t help.


In my next post I will write about special admissions  situations.